5 Ways Facebook Can Ruin Your Relationship or Marriage
I don’t know if a good marriage can really be RUINED by Facebook or by any kind of social media platform for that matter. But I do know that social media, like porn, overly friendly exes and clingy mother-in-laws can be a real impediment to marital happiness. This is why.
Everyone Else’s Marriage Seems So Damn Happy on Facebook
No one’s life is perfect. But you wouldn’t know that from looking at Facebook or Instagram where everyone is hugging and kissing and going on super special date nights with perfect hair. For once I wish people would Instagram what a marriage really looks like—the toilet seat is up and no one ever flushes, the dishes are piled in the sink, the dog smells funny and there are dirty socks under the covers. What filter works best for that?
Exes Who Like Every Post
I’m all for being friends with your exes. My philosophy is that if you dated someone for a long time then you had them in your life for a reason. But there are unwritten rules of etiquette to follow once an ex gets married. It can get more than a little irritating when your husband’s ex likes everything he does, consistently shares stories about THEIR happy times together and almost always shares Facebook memories where they happen to have their arms wrapped around one another…or worse.
Miscommunication Over Social Style
One of you loves to post everything you do. The other one hates Facebook altogether. This is a problem for a marriage and requires a real come to Jesus talk about how you post about your now shared personal life.
It Ruins Your Sex Drive
Checking Facebook and other social media before bed has become a ritual for too many of us. Not only does this disrupt our sleep patterns, but it can also put a damper on time you would otherwise be spending interacting with your spouse. IN REAL LIFE.
It Can Lead to Infidelity
I’m a firm believer that if someone wants to cheat on you then they are going to cheat on you. They don’t need Facebook or Twitter to do it. Still, it’s never been easier to reconnect with an old boyfriend or girlfriend than a simple Facebook search. And even more than that Facebook loves to remind you who you could be connected with with little regard for whether that connection used to get naked in your house.